In this post I will totally shatter this myth. I'm sick and tired of misinformation like this being spouted by these 'dating gurus'. Heck, there are even some gurus who claim to be Direct that say not to compliment women.
The first thing any guy notices about a woman and what attracts him to her is her looks. Men are visual creatures and are initially turned on by a woman's looks. Therefore giving a woman a genuine compliment about her looks, about what specifically about her you find attractive, in order to start the conversation is the natural thing to do.
Anyone who thinks otherwise is either an indirect idiot, or an idiot full stop. After all, if you don't compliment a woman's looks, what else are you going to say to start the conversation? Something indirect? We all know that indirect doesn't work, otherwise you wouldn't be on this site learning about the Direct approach.
Complimenting alone isn't totally Direct
I do want to be clear on something though - simply giving a woman a compliment alone then walking away isn't the same thing as being totally Direct. You do not want to be a guy who compliments women but your interactions never go anywhere after that.
After you've complimented a woman, you need to state your intentions to her, i.e. express to her that you're interested in hooking up with her at some point in the future, and see if she is too. If you give compliments without letting them know you want to hook up with them, you're wasting your time.
Complimenting women on their looks establishes a sexual dynamic right from the start
The thing about complimenting a woman on her looks as a conversation starter is that it establishes a sexual, not platonic, dynamic between you and her right from the start, and that is exactly what you want because it is the correct foundation for hooking up with her romantically/sexually.
On the flip side, indirect approaches are sexless and establish a friendly, platonic dynamic between you and a girl, which will get you into the friend zone but not the lover zone.
Complimenting vs fawning
A common misconception many guys have is that they think that complimenting a woman is synonymous with fawning over her, however these are not the same thing!
Fawning is when a guy goes something like 'wow, you're really pretty' and he puts the girl on a pedestal, thinking she's some goddess that he can never obtain. Fawning is also where a guy 'cat calls' out sexual comments such as 'hey baby, nice ass' or 'hey babe you're hot'....I'm sure you've seen some douche bag guys walking down the street 'cat calling' women like this. This is NOT synonymous with complimenting women.
However, a genuine Direct compliment is where a guy finds a girl attractive and he lets her know that without hesitation and without apology. He doesn't put her on a pedestal, but he acknowledges that he's attracted to her and he expresses that without fawning over her.
There is a big difference between these two things. It's all in the mindset. Don't confuse complimenting a woman with fawning over her.
I discuss exactly how to give genuine Direct compliments to a woman (including actual examples of what to say) in my 2nd ebook, 'Taking Your Direct Approach To Mastery Level', which is available on the 'Products' page of this website.
The myth that women are 'constantly complimented on their looks'
I've heard some guys say 'you shouldn't compliment a woman on her looks because every day they have tons of guys constantly telling them they're beautiful/pretty/hot etc, so if you compliment them on their looks you'll be just like every other guy'.
First of all, this is total bullshit! Also, we need to distinguish between the online and offline worlds too. ONLINE, women get a lot of attention and comments from men telling them they're hot etc, but not so much in the real world. These men online are FAWNING over the women, NOT complimenting them (and as I explained earlier in this post, there is a huge difference between the two). If you fawn over women online, you won't stand out from the barrage of other men who leave fawning type comments on their social media profiles etc.
In the real world, in their everyday lives, women don't get genuinely Directly complimented on their looks as much as you think. Most guys are afraid to approach women in person, so the idea that women have a constant stream of men approaching them and complimenting their looks every day as they walk down the street is a myth. The guys who DO make comments on a girl's looks are fawning/making 'cat call' type comments. Big difference!
These guys who believe this myth are confusing complimenting with fawning. So I've now completely silenced any guy who believes women are constantly complimented on their looks.
Erotic/sexual/action compliments about what you'd like to do to a girl sexually
The other thing you can do to make your compliments different from other guys is, after you've complimented a woman on her looks, you can also add some erotic/sexual phrases in by letting a girl know specifically what you'd like to do to her sexually. I also discuss how to do this in my 2nd ebook.
The proof of the pudding is in the eating
My own real world experiences with complimenting women have confirmed to me that it works well and never hurts your chances with a woman. In my experience, it has always helped me to hook up with women I've approached, far more than any bullshit indirect approaches ever did.
Go out and try it yourself. Then go back to your indirect, sexless approaches. Note the difference in your results and how women respond to you. I think you'll find complimenting women on their looks is the most effective route.
NEVER be afraid to compliment a woman on her looks, and it is the best way to start a conversation with a woman in a Direct way. You now understand that there is a world of difference between giving a genuine Direct compliment and fawning over/making 'cat calling' comments to women. Therefore the myth that 'you should never compliment a woman on her looks' is now well and truly shattered. Never believe any guy or 'dating guru' who tells you otherwise because they're full of shit and will just confuse you with their misinformation.