I've got to break it to you, but this idea is a TOTAL MYTH.
A lot of guys spend months or even years working on their skills with women, in the hope that they will one day become a guy who can approach any woman with no possibility of rejection ever again, and ALWAYS pull every time he goes out to meet them.
Here's the blunt truth: this is an impossible goal to achieve.
In life, there will ALWAYS be a portion of women who are attracted to you and will be interested in you in a romantic/sexual manner....and then there will ALWAYS be a portion of women who will never, ever find you sexually attractive no matter how good your 'skills with women' are, or how successful you are financially, career wise, etc.
I heard one major PUA guru state that 'if you approach 5 girls, you should be able to get 5 girlfriends', thereby implying that if you 'get good enough' you can become a guy who can seduce ANY woman he wants with no possibility of rejection. This statement also implies that if you get rejected, that you somehow 'did something wrong'. Nothing could be further from the truth.
How this realisation liberates you
You no longer need to strive for the impossible goal of being able to pick up every woman you approach.
You no longer need to believe that you 'did something wrong' if you get rejected. The truth is, if you did everything right in your Direct approach but STILL got rejected, that does NOT necessarily mean you did something wrong. All that means is the girl wasn't attracted to you, or she decided to reject you out of her own free choice.
You can do everything right, yet still get rejected. Don't ever take it personally, and don't necessarily believe you did anything wrong just because you didn't get the outcome you were looking for. Just move on to another Direct approach on another girl.
The truth about the sort of results you will get
The total truth is, whenever you go out to meet women, your results will boil down to a mixture of the following:
- You will get some positive responses, and these will lead to you and the girl eventually hooking up romantically/sexually
- You will get some blank or indifferent responses, which generally lead nowhere
- You will get some straight up rejections....these are no problem at all, as it saves you wasting time on uninterested woman. You can give these women your number and they may change their mind at a later date.
- You will get the occasional negative reaction....the best thing is to shrug your shoulders and move on to your next approach
- You will get some resistance....if you persist through this, you'll usually pull the girl in the end
This myth keeps guys stuck in the cycle of buying more PUA products, endlessly reading seduction blog posts, endlessly trying to improve their 'game', endlessly posting on PUA forums online, all in a bid to reach the impossible goal of being able to pick up every woman they approach.
They don't sit back and realise that rejection, negative reactions, resistance, blank/indifferent responses are part of the process of achieving success. This applies to ALL areas of life you're trying to achieve success in, not just dating and relationships.
All of life, including being successful with women, is a numbers game. Whether it's applying for a job, finding clients for a business, etc, you cannot beat the numbers game. You CAN improve your skills in all areas of life, so that your overall success rate becomes higher, but you can never beat the numbers game.
The PUA coaches/gurus make you falsely believe you can bypass the numbers game by mastering their techniques; they give you the impression that you will no longer be at mercy of the numbers game any more, that you will have been given the 'magic pill' that enables you to get success all the time.
The sensible and mature man realises this is all bullshit, and instead sees the truth: that not getting the results you want is simply a stepping stone along the way to getting the results you do want, and that if you persist enough you will eventually achieve the success you want.
You can have an abundance of women and sex if you are willing to do the following 4 things:
- Approach a lot of women on a regular basis
- Be as Direct as possible with all of them about your intentions
- Give every woman you approach a way to contact you
- Persist through the rejections, resistance, negative/blank/indifferent approaches until you get to some successes