There are certain universal problems that keep happening to guys of all ages and cultures, time and time again. You only have to look all around you at the problems people you know are encountering in dating and relationship to realise this is true.
Or read any online 'dating and relationships advice' or PUA forum and you'll notice these same problems consistently keep cropping up. There literally seems to be a conveyor-belt of guys who keep falling victim to these same issues.
Many guys having problems with women ask 'what should I do?' in their given situation, but I have noticed that in most cases the answer is simply 'be Direct'. If you eliminate the root cause of a problem, it won't keep coming back, but if you try to paper over the cracks by using indirect/tactics/techniques, the same problems will keep occurring over and over again and you'll never make any real progress with women. The guys asking the question 'what should I do' are basically looking for a quick temporary fix to their current situation, but haven't considered the deeper problem that they aren't Direct with women.
In this post I'll outline some of these problems, and explain how being Direct can solve them.
Common problem 1: Not knowing what to say when you approach a girl or have a conversation with her
The truth is, you actually always DO know what the say to a girl, IF you would just listen to your own intuition, but you just lack the balls to say it.
The exact words to say to a girl are exactly whatever is on your mind in any given moment, and whatever your true intentions are with her. You don't need any scripts or routines, or tactics or techniques.
Common problem 2: Not being able to tell whether a girl likes you romantically/sexually or whether she just likes you as just a friend
When you're not Direct with women, it's really tricky to tell the difference and it's easy to confuse women who were just being friendly with those who are attracted you sexually. This can easily be solved by being Direct.
Common problem 3: Ending up in the friend zone with women a lot, when you wanted to be lovers, not friends
When you're not Direct with women, it's too easy to fall into the friend zone. If you keep ending up in the friend zone, start being Direct with ALL women you talk to who you are attracted to, and watch the dreaded friend zone trap melt away from you life. Sure, you won't hook up with every woman you approach, but at least you'll no longer fall victim to the friend zone trap any more.
Common problem 4: Having long winded conversations with women that go nowhere
Aimless, unfocused conversations where you never let a girl know you find her attractive and you never state your intentions to her (i.e. indirect) tend to get you exactly nowhere with women.
When you are Direct with women, your conversations start being extremely focused and to the point, and this will be reflected in your results.
Common problem 5: Getting messed about or manipulated by women
Manipulative women bank on the fact that you're an indirect guy who is too afraid to make a move on her, so that they can toy with you and mess you about to get their attention fix and a get a kick of playing games with you.
When you're Direct with women, you take away a manipulative woman's power and you figure them out quicker, so that you can quickly move on to other women who are worth your time and attention.
Common problem 6: Ending up as a girl's 'digital communication buddy', i.e. email buddy, text message buddy, Facebook/Twitter friend, but never meet her or hook up with her
This is a VERY common trap that a lot of guys fall into. They talk to a girl via all this digital communication, but never actually end up hooking up with her and maybe never even meet her in real life at all.
All this time wasting could be eliminated if they were Direct.
Common problem 7: You want one type of romantic/sexual relationship, but end up with another
Have you ever wanted no strings casual sex from a girl, or maybe an open relationship, but ended up with a monogamous girlfriend? Perhaps you wanted to date multiple women, but somehow ended up in an exclusive relationship? You are not alone, and the reason this type of thing happens regularly to guys is because they lack the communication skills to state their TRUE intentions to women.
You can avoid this happening by tightening up your communication skills and being Direct with women by telling them precisely what type of romantic/sexual relationship you want, and finding out what they want, so that there are no misunderstandings or confusion about what you want from them and you don't inadvertently end up getting into the wrong type of romantic/sexual relationship that you didn't want in the first place.
Common problem 8: You find yourself being disrespected, nagged or walked all by women when you are in a relationship
This is another common problem that happens to a lot of perfectly decent guys when they start seeing a girl on a regular basis. But it they had been Direct from the beginning and let it be known that they want a mutually enjoyable relationship and that they will not stand for any nonsense or disrespect, then they could've avoided this happening, or at least been able to put a stop to it as and when it occurred.
Common problem 9: You get cheated on by your partner(s)
People cheat because either their emotional and/or sexual needs are not being met, or they get bored with their partner, or they meet someone else who happens to 'push their attraction buttons' and one thing leads to another...
But Direct communication will help you communicate your needs to each other, meaning they're more likely to be met and you're less likely to be cheated on.
Also, instead of cheating, why not try an open relationship instead? You could easily set this up from the start by being Direct with you partner, but how would communicate this to your partner if you were indirect? You can't.
Common problem 10: Not fulfilling your partner's sexual needs (or them not fulfilling yours)
You can solve this by communicating your sexual needs to your partner, and by finding out what theirs are. Again, this is where Direct communication comes in.
As you can see from this post, the root cause of all these common issues guys experience with women is a lack of Direct communication. Still not convinced? Carry on with your indirect ways and see what happens. I guarantee you'll keep running into one or more of these same problems until you switch to being Direct with women.