I've seen a lot of couples who are really young, like late teens or early 20s, moving in together, getting into serious monogamous relationships, getting married and having kids. Most of them haven't really played the field or dated or slept with anyone other than the person they're with, yet they're in a big hurry to settle down with them.
Whenever I see such young couples declaring their undying love for each other, naively believing their relationship will last forever, getting engaged, moving in together etc, I just cringe.
My observation of these people is that their relationships usually don't last, or the ones that do end up really dull and lifeless after a few years. They also end up being very insular people who don't experience life to the full because their lives revolve around each other and living a safe, secure, domesticated life.
I don't see any reason why any guy should settle down in his youth, especially if he's in his 20s. Why not experience life, hook up with lots of different women and not be tied down to 'commitment' from such a young age? There's plenty of time to settle down when you get older (if you want to), I see no reason for a guy in his 20s to settle down at all.
When a guy is in his 20s, he should be out in the world experiencing as much as he can, learning about life and figuring out who he is and what he wants out of life. He needn't be in any hurry to settle down with one woman. If he stays as a free agent, he could go traveling for a few years, live in some different places, and pursue his goals and dreams without being tied down to one woman. But by settling down too young, he'll forfeit a lot of his freedom and compromise his dreams.
If they're truly honest with themselves, a lot of guys who get into serious relationships at a young age secretly would love to be able to hook up with lots of different women, but they fall for the first girl that comes along and end up stuck with her and waste their youth not living life to the full and not experiencing different women.
THE MYTH THAT YOU MUST EVENTUALLY 'SETTLE DOWN' WHEN YOU REACH A CERTAIN AGE
There's an underlying assumption in our society that by the time you reach a certain age, perhaps your late 20s or early to mid 30s, that you have to settle down with one partner, move in together and maybe get married and start a family. Anyone who doesn't follow this standard, default path is looked down upon with slight 'suspicion', as if there's something wrong with him or that he's gay or something equally ridiculous and judgmental. But it's all bullshit.
There's no law that says you have to settle down at any age. Society acts as if relationships are a one size fits all, but they're not. Relationships have changed, and the traditional model of finding a long term serious girlfriend, getting married and having kids is no longer the only option.
I know that traditional monogamous relationships and marriage are NOT for me. I'm a free spirit with an adventurous attitude to life. I enjoy my own freedom and independence. I also like my own space and solitude. I don't want a serious monogamous girlfriend. I don't want a wife. I don't want kids. I don't want a woman to live with me. Sitting and staring at the same 4 walls, bringing up a family and being with the same woman all my life would be my worst nightmare. That would be deadly boring to me. I think relationships like that get very stale and monotonous, in fact virtually everyone I know who got married or started living with a long-term girlfriend is either now divorced, split up or really unhappy and bickers with their partner a lot of the time. If that's what 'love' and long-term relationship are like, you can keep it.
But I DO love women and like hooking up with them. I prefer non-monogamous/open relationships as I like sexual variety and I like to date multiple women. I like the thrill of doing ultra bold Direct approaches, and I enjoy the buzz that comes from meeting new women. I don't like bland, vanilla sex, and I don't like prudish, puritanical women. I like open-minded, sexually adventurous types who are willing to experiment and try new things in the bedroom.
I'm in my early 30s and I couldn't care less is anyone thinks I should 'settle down'. I have no intention of doing so any time soon, if at all, and I don't feel remotely old or as if time is catching up with me. I shall continue to enjoy my life and do things on my own terms now and for the rest of my days on earth, and that includes my dating and sex life.
I think the whole notion that you must 'settle down' when you get to a certain age is complete bullshit and no guy should ever feel pressured by society, his friends or his family to settle down if he doesn't want to. If he genuinely wants to then that's fine, but if he's doing it just because that's what's expected of him then that's where the problem lies.