Well, you're not alone. This happens to many guys around the world. Many guys who are bad with women somehow find out about the seduction community and they fall for the marketing tricks and hype that the so-called seduction gurus preach. They buy a few ebooks or audio or video courses from some of these gurus, they join some popular seduction community discussion forums online and slowly but surely they get sucked into this false, weird world of PUAs....
Several months or even years later, the cold hard reality dawns on them: becoming a PUA has yielded very little results. It's worked very inconsistently, and it hasn't turned them into the magical ladies man they believed it would.
Frustrated, they eventually leave the seduction community behind....
You may think I'm being a little bit dramatic here, but I've seen this happen to quite a lot of guys who get involved with PUA.
So if the seduction community is not the answer to becoming really good with women, what is? The answer: become Direct, real and honest with women instead. You need to drop all that you learned in the seduction community and follow a more authentic path instead.
In this post, I am going to explain how you can unlearn all the bullshit you learned in the PUA community and replace it with the mindset of the Direct approach instead. Even if you are a guy who has followed the PUA path for a long time, you can unlearn it and do things a better way instead.
So exactly how do you get started?
First of all, no using any PUA terminology from now on. Just erase it all from your mind. No normal person uses such geeky, nerdy terms to refer to every aspect of dating and relationships.
You will no longer refer to women as 'HBs' or 'targets'. You will simply call them women or girls from now on. You will no longer refer to groups of girls as 'sets'. You will simply call them '2 girls', '3 girls' etc, or 'group of girls'. You will no longer use the term 'sarging'. You will simply say 'meeting women' or 'meeting girls'.
You will no longer refer to getting a phone number as a 'number close'. You will simply call it 'getting a phone number'. You will no longer refer to kissing a woman as a 'k close', you will simply say 'kissing a woman'. You will no longer refer to having sex with a girl as an 'f close'. You will simply say 'having sex with a girl'.
You will no longer refer to a date as a 'day 2' or 'day 3'. You will simply call it a date or 'getting together with a woman'.
You get the idea: you will no longer be using any PUA terminology whatsoever.
Now onto the mindset. You will no longer see meeting women as some sort of 'system' or 'method' or 'series of 'steps' you have to follow. You will see women as real people and not some sort of algorithm that needs to be solved. You will no longer use any techniques or tactics. You will no longer use any tricks or gimmicks. You will forget about using 'game' completely. From now on you will simply be your REAL SELF around women.
When you approach a woman, you will no longer use any pre-rehearsed openers and you will no longer approach indirect. Instead, you will approach Direct and say whatever
is on your mind in the moment, and let the woman know right away that you think she's attractive and what you really want from her.
When you're getting to know a girl, you will no longer use fake DHV stories to try and impress her or make yourself seem better than you really are. You will simply have a real conversation with her and get to know each other by being truthful about who you are and what you do and have done in your life.
You will no longer put on a fake PUA personality around women. You will no longer 'be cocky and funny', etc. You will display your normal and natural personality instead.
You will no longer memorise any routines or scripts to talk to women. Instead you will let the words come out naturally, just like any normal person would.
You will no longer use techniques such as push/pull to pretend you're not really interested in a woman when really you are. You will no longer 'fake disinterest' in the mistaken belief it will make her want you more. From now on, if you are attracted to a girl you will be completely honest about that with her; you will no longer try to hide your interest.
You will no longer hide your sexual side around women. From now on you will have no problem leading the conversation towards sex; you will talk about sexual stuff just like you would talk about any other subject.
You will no longer do 'texting game' or 'Facebook game' with women. If you want to get together with a woman you've met, you will contact her by phone and actually speak to her rather than hiding behind digital technology like every other guy she's met.
You will no longer wear silly clothes and style yourself like a total misfit in order to stand out. From now on you will wear whatever clothes you want to. I'm not suggesting you look shabby or dress like a slob, I'm just saying you will dress how you really want to and not do all that try hard 'peacocking' bullshit. You will dress and style yourself like a MAN and look masculine, not like some metrosexual, gay, camp looking PUA fool.
You will no longer make approaching women and learning 'game' the central focus of your life. Instead, you will focus on what you are really passionate about in life, and you will see woman as a nice ADDITION to your life rather than your entire focus.
Finally, you will no longer follow or idolise any seduction gurus or dating coaches, etc. From now on, you are your own guru, you are your own coach. You will no longer post in discussion forums about dating and relationships or picking up women, as you now understand that most of the guys who post in there are confused, lost guys who are bad with women.
You no longer blindly follow the dating advice of others. Instead you will follow your own reasoning and intuition and trust in your own personal experiences as the final judge of what works and what doesn't and to ultimately decide what's best for you.