Sometimes life in the 21st century can be like living in a cage in that we are constantly told how we 'should' and 'shouldn't' live our lives - what we 'should' and 'shouldn't' do, what we 'should' and 'shouldn't' say, what's 'appropriate' and 'not appropriate', in all areas of our lives including dating and relationships.
It's such a burden to live that way and have to constantly be thinking and worrying about how we 'should' and 'shouldn't' live our lives.
As a result of this, both men and women have fallen into a trap of a lack authenticity and lack of openness and honesty with the opposite sex in their dating lives, which is the biggest problem in the dating and relationships landscape today.
The Direct approach frees us from these chains as it's main message is that it's ok to be who you are and say and do as you please, and that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It's ok to be 100% authentic with people.
When you fully understand and live the Direct way, it is like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You no longer have to go along with society's and everyone else's expectations; you can relax, let go and just be YOU. And if anyone doesn't like it, it's their problem not yours.
It feels very liberating to know that it's totally ok to just be you, without the need to change or be like anyone else. You don't need to compare yourself to anyone else, you just need to be you.
It is very freeing to know that it's ok to speak your mind 100% openly and honestly with anyone you talk to. You never need to worry about saying the 'right' or 'wrong' thing; you can just say whatever is on your mind. In fact, it feels downright healing to be able to say exactly what you think because you no longer have to bottle up your feelings inside yourself.
It's liberating to know that you don't need to have any gurus or be a follower of anyone; you can simply be your own guru, and trust in yourself and your own intuition to guide you through life. Likewise, you don't need to follow anyone else's philosophy or rules, you can come up with your own. When you are a follower of another person or a belief system, you give you power away to who/what you follow and compromise your ability to think for yourself.
It's liberating to know that it's perfectly fine to approach a girl and her know you find her attractive and that you'd love to hook up with her, any time, any place, instead of feeling ashamed or scared to approach.
It's liberating to know that it's absolutely ok to talk about sex when you meet a girl.
It's liberating to know that it simply does not matter what anyone else says or thinks about you, what you say or how you live your life.
Ever since I started being a Direct guy, I've become a lot more comfortable in my own skin and a lot more relaxed about life. It's just too much unnecessary 'effort' to live any other way, constantly worrying about saying and doing the 'right thing' and whether it will offend anyone or not. With Direct, you can let all that go and be free. You will feel 'lighter' as a person when you commit to being Direct.
HOW THE DIRECT APPROACH LIBERATES WOMEN
When a guy is real and honest with women and refuses to play games with them and he's not afraid to show his sexual side, he's also giving them permission to do the same. It's refreshing and empowering for a woman to meet a Direct guy.
Many women are caught up in the same trap of playing games, manipulating men, and not being honest and authentic about who they are and what their romantic/sexual intentions are.
As men, if we concentrate on being Direct with women we can start a wave of authenticity around the planet which will encourage women to be more real and honest with us too. The fewer games men play and tolerate, the fewer games women will play too. The more men can open up and have honest conversations about sex and what we want from our relationships, the more it will empower women to do the same and be more sexually liberated with us too.
The Direct approach can free both men and women from the mental and emotional chains both sexes have been living in when it comes to be fully open and honest in our dating and sex lives, but in order for women to be authentic it starts with us as men to live that way first and to communicate this message to women we meet too.