Someone to have deep, interesting conversations with? Nope...I can have these types of conversations with my male friends or aquaintances.
Companionship? Someone to 'hang out with'? Not really...I tend to prefer my own company or that of close friends and family anyway.
A life partner or 'soulmate'? Nah...not for me. I'm on my own path through life, and being bound to one woman will only restrict my freedom and hold me back from pursuing my goals.
Someone to live together with? Nah...I enjoy living alone, and I like having my own space.
Someone to cook for you? Clean your house? Do your laundry? Nope...I can do all these things just fine myself, thank you very much.
Someone to share the household bills and other life expenses with? Not for me...I prefer to make my own money and pay my own way. Life is less hassle that way.
Someone to spend money on? Nah...I'd rather spend my money on myself and on pursuing my passions and purpose in life. Unless I choose to buy a gift for someone or help someone who is financially in need.
Someone to have a monogamous relationship with? Not my thing....why would I want to cut off all my other romantic/sexual options and be with only one woman?
Someone to get married to? Nope...why be legally bound to another person and end up getting financially screwed over if it goes tits up (which it probably will, given the high failure rate of marriage these days)?
Someone to have kids with? Well, that's fine if you do actually want to have children. But I don't, thank you very much.
But there is ONE thing that I need women for, something I or my male friends/aquaintances can't provide me with. Oh yeh...sex.
Let's keep it 100% real here...unless you happen to be into monogamy or marriage (and it's fine if that, or any of the other things I just listed, is/are what you want, by the way....but let's assume you're a guy who doesn't want any of these things), what most of us guys really want and need women for is SEX. And everything most guys do with women is, ultimately, so that they can have sex with them. Why do guys try so hard to impress women, take them out on dates, buy them stuff, etc? It's all so they can (hopefully) have sex with them.
Most guys are in denial of this simple fact....they'll go 'Oh, it's not just sex I want from this woman. I'm really interested in her as a person and want to get to know her'. Yeh right! You don't fool me. The fact is, if they're REALLY honest, what they REALLY want from women is SEX.
One of the many things I love about the direct approach is that it allows guys to pursue the goal of sex without having to get caught up in all the other unncessary things that non-direct guys do in the pursuit of women, i.e taking women on dates, having long platonic conversations with them, buying them things, giving them money, living together, getting into monogamous relationships, getting married, having kids, etc. Most guys get caught in the trap of all these irrelevant things, when the truth is what they really wanted from woman was sex. Fortunately the direct approach allows a guy to bypass all that stuff, and get straight to the sex. Doing all that extra stuff in order to get women into bed is not needed if you are a direct guy.
The REAL reason you are talking to a woman
Again, keeping it 100% real....the true reason a guy talks to any girl he likes the look of is because he finds her attractive and wants to have sex with her. It's NOT so he can have interesting conversations, get to know her, go on dates etc. Nope. Sex! So why not just be honest about that fact?
I previously wrote a blog post entitled 'The Purpose Of Relationships Is Mutual Enjoyment', and that is certainly true, but what I should have added is that, bluntly speaking, the primary purpose of having any kind of interaction or relationship with a woman you're attracted to is ultimately because you want to have sex with her.
A direct guy is not afraid to let a woman know that all he wants is sex
Now that we've discussed the fact that the purpose of talking to women and having relationships is basically for sex, I'll also add that as a direct guy you should never feel the need to hide the fact that all you want from a woman is sex.
The problem with indirect guys is that they believe that they need to hide their sexual intentions from women in the mistaken belief that being upfront and honest will 'turn women off', and as a result they try to 'sneak in under the radar' by pretending they are not interested in just sex, when in fact they really are.
But a direct guy tells women verbally that his interest is purely sex. There are many ways to go about doing this, which I discuss in my second ebook.
Woman have dozens of other reasons why they talk to and interact with men, therefore you NEED to be direct with them if your interest in them is purely for sex
The next point in this blog post is to discuss WHY men need to be sexually direct with women. Let's keep it totally real again....when a guy talks to a girl he's attracted to, it's for ONE simple reason....he wants to have sex with her. Sure, some guys might want to find a steady girlfriend or, eventually, a wife. But for most men, they're ultimately looking to have sex with that girl.
But with women, there are lots of different reasons they interact with men. Women are very manipulative and they often converse with and spend time with men for the purpose of manipulating them into getting what they want out of them, which could be money, gifts, free drinks, free dinners, free attention, an ego boost, someone to talk to or hang out with when they're bored, someone to vent about their problems to, or even free holidays, cars, rent, houses, jewellery etc.
Therefore in order to prevent being used and manipulated by women for these things, and in order to prevent them wasting your time and money, you need to be verbally direct and let your sexual intentions be known. And that is where the whole indirect approach fails, because it simply leaves guys wide open to be manipulated and strung along by women.
And by the way, it's certainly true that sometimes women only want sex too. It's not that women don't want sex, or that there are no women want 'just sex' from men....it's just that in the real world, many women want all this extra stuff without the sex, or in addition to the sex, and they will try to manipulate men into getting this stuff, so in order to cut all that off and protect yourself, you simply must be verbally direct.
And of course, you can get women to be fine about just having sex with you if you are skilled at the direct approach and getting them turned on with your erotic dirty talk skills, etc.
If all you want from women is sex, there is no need to spend time with them non-sexually
A further point I'd like to make is that, assuming all you want from a woman is purely sex, then there is no need to spend any time with them beyond that. No need to 'hang out' with each other, no need to go on dates (unless you choose to), no need to buy her things, no need to do anything beyond meeting up every now and then for sexual activity. Many guys spend way too much time with women that they really only want sex from, but they get lumbered into investing their precious time doing non-sexual stuff, when that isn't what they actually wanted from her. A true direct guy cuts all that off and makes it clear he only wants to spend time with women sexually.
Even if you only want sex, you can still be a lover of women and treat them with respect
One final point I'd like to make is that just because you only want sex from women doesn't mean you're a woman hater/misogynist or that you're using them in any way. You can still be a lover of women and treat them with respect even if your interest is no strings casual sex. Society tries to shame men into believing they are 'using women' or that we hate them if all we want from them is sex.
But nothing could be further from the truth. Provided you are honest with women about your sexual intentions, you are not using them or disrespecting them in any way by wanting them only for sex. Is it not respectful to a woman for a guy to satisfy her sexual needs? Is a guy not a lover of women if he satisfies her sexually and gives her multiple orgasms?
When a guy 'just wants sex', that doesn't mean that it's all about his sexual needs only...a true direct guy, a true lover of women, makes his sexual experiences a shared experience based on mutual sexual enjoyment between himself and a woman....she satisfies his sexual needs, he satisfies hers. It's win-win for both parties.
And if you do your research, you'll find that women in general are actually hornier for sex and enjoy sex more than men anyway, and there are just as many women in society in this day and age who like and enjoy casual and non-monogamous sex as men. So there you go. Not everything you've been led to believe is true.
I'm aware this post will ruffle more than a few feathers. I'll probably get some women saying I'm so shallow and 'immoral' for stating I want nothing more than sex from them. But that's fine. At least I'm honest. I'm just keeping it real.