So now I'll hand you over to Sebastian for his article, '5 Awesome Qualities You Communicate By Being Direct'.....
Some people say that approaching women in a direct way instead of trying to sneak into their pants by using indirect pickup lines is time-saving. Others say that being direct is something that you can use as a technique to expand your comfort zone.
All those things might be true, but there is on aspect of the Direct approach that puts every other benefit to the shade. A man who is direct with women communicates certain qualities that a man who uses indirect lines simply can’t communicate.
There are certain qualities in a man that women are instinctively attracted to. Don’t get me wrong. Guys who use indirect routines also communicate some qualities. The only problem is that they communicate qualities, such as insecurity and insincerity, which are anything but attractive.
Let’s have a look at what exactly you communicate to women by being direct with them and why being direct is so effective.
The first quality that you communicate whenever you approach a woman with a direct compliment is self-confidence. Self-confidence is the number one characteristic that distinguishes the successful seducers from indirect pickup artists who will never reach a certain level of success with women.
Every woman knows that only a man who is confident in himself and in his communication and seduction skills has the courage to walk up to a girl and to tell her exactly what’s on his mind. No man with zero self-confidence would have the courage to do that.
How would a man who isn’t self-confident handle the situation? He would hide his interest and ask her an irrelevant question, in the hope that the interaction will motivate her to type her number into his phone. With this behavior he shows that he is afraid of her and of the consequences that revealing his intention could have.
If you, however, tell her what you think, she will not only assume that you are emotionally strong, but also that you have the necessary confidence to become successful in other areas of your life. Every woman wants such a man.
Do you know how hard it is for a woman to find a man who is honest to her? On the one hand, a lot of beautiful women are surrounded by guys who try to buy their attention and affection with expensive gifts. On the other hand, a lot of women are forced to have one conversation after another with men who talk about everything under the sun, without ever revealing what they really want.
Stop lying to yourself. Every woman who you approach with lines such as “do you know where I can find a birthday present for my sister?” knows that…
A: You don’t really want to find a birthday present.
B: You don’t care about her opinion on birthday presents.
C: You don’t even have a sister.
Every woman who is not completely retarded knows that you are lying. If you were really looking for a birthday present for your sister you would ask Google or Amazon and not some random girl on the street.
With such an indirect pickup line you make it impossible for her to trust you. I mean, how can a woman trust you when she knows that the first sentence you said to her was nothing but a big fat lie? She will never take you seriously, she will never trust you and the last thing she will think to herself is “I always wanted to date such an honest and authentic guy”.
Women are craving for honest and authentic men and by approaching her in a direct way, you are honest and authentic. Give the next woman you meet the chance to get to know your authentic self and don’t disappoint her by being the tenth guy who asks her for her female opinion.
3. The Willingness to Go For What You Want
Women are drawn towards guys who have a vision in life and who have the potential to become successful. What do all successful people have in common? They were willing to ignore the naysayers and to go for what they want. Every successful person knows that you have to go for what you want, no matter how hard it is. A man with such an unbreakable will and such a determination is extremely attractive to women.
Whenever you are approaching a woman with a direct compliment you automatically communicate this quality to her. A man, who risks a rejection, because he has the balls to tell a woman that he is attracted to her shows that he is willing to go for what he wants without thinking about the consequences.
What do you communicate when you approach a woman in an indirect way? Well, you obviously show that you don’t have the willingness to go for what you want. Otherwise you wouldn’t pretend to want her female opinion, when all you really want is to have sex with her.
4. Leadership Qualities
What distinguishes a bad leader from a good leader? A good leader is able to make fast decisions and to communicate clearly and effectively, whereas a bad leader hesitates to make a decision and communicates in an ambiguous way.
I hope I don’t shock you by saying that women are attracted to men with leadership qualities. I know, you have been conditioned to believe that all women want to be in leadership positions, but the truth is that women expect you to lead. I have never heard of a happy relationship in which the woman was the leader and the man was the follower. No woman on this earth wants that.
By being direct with women you show that you are able to makefast decisions. Within a couple of seconds you decide to walk up to her and to tell her what you think, without falling back on routines and memorized lines. In addition to that, you show that you can communicate clearly and effectively. It takes three seconds to give her a direct compliment and it doesn’t take a lot longer for her to make the decision to give you her number.
5. Independence from the Opinion of Others
What else do you communicate to women when you approach them with a direct compliment? Let me give you a hint. When you approach a woman with a direct compliment, someone could hear what you say, right? In this case someone could thing that you are a creep or a player. If she would reject you that particular someone could start to laugh at you.
The amazing thing about the direct approach is that you show that you don’t care about that particular someone. By approaching women in a direct way without hiding your intentions you communicate that you don’t care about what other people think of you.
There is a reason why this is a very attractive quality. A man who doesn’t care what other people think has the potential to defend her, to support her and to love her, even if someone might be against the relationship. A man who doesn’t care about the opinion of other people follows his path and doesn’t back down as soon as he gets criticized.
If you are such a man, she’ll immediately assume that you’ll become successful and that the relationship with you will be happy and supportive. Give me one reason why she shouldn’t give you her number.